Lingo Bingo: Here we go again.

I am going to keep the explanations straightforward because if you are new the last thing you need is to be caught in the minutia of what can turn into a semantically centered discussion.

If you have been in the lifestyle for a while, you know the terms and lingo can not only be subjective but can be a hot button for getting heated debates going, I prefer to avoid this because the idea is to just get some basic info here for the ones just finding their way into the lifestyle.

Often the lingo is self-explanatory but still be confusing for people who don’t have a clue what is being talked about.

A lot of it is used in an acronym form/or shorthanded and that can be confounding for people new to the scene.

There’s no rhyme or reason to the lingo I choose to write about as I go along. I’ll add what comes to mind as it comes to mind.

There are more in-depth explanations of these titles and the lingo here…… but again…..I am working from a very basic stand point.

Safe Word:

It means STOP NOW! And either Domme or sub may find the need to use a safe word. A safe word should leave no doubt that the one using it needs whatever is going on to STOP.

Top and bottom, just as it seems; the Domme or Mistress being the top, submissive or slave being the bottom.

S.A.M.

Smart Assed Masochist.

I happen to live with this kind of submissive they can be fun to play with or they can be a nightmare. The nightmare version from my experience is the one who doesn’t know when to give it a rest. Not knowing when to drop the smartass routine and trying to provoke the Domme into being angry or playing harder.

T.F.T.B.

Topping from the bottom.

Just exactly what it sounds like.

The sub/bottom/slave telling the Top/Domme/Mistress how to do her job.

A woman new to the life style can find this to be a confidence breaker.

There’s a time and a place for a sub to let his Domme know what he likes/wishes to have in play but during play time is NOT the time.

Negotiation is a must for couples and it should be done BEFORE play starts in a non-sexual environment.

It is the “business end” of being a D/s couple.

Like and dislikes and hard limits for both Domme and sub should be discussed as well as using safe words and methods of letting the Domme know about the mental, emotional and physical status of the sub during play.