R.A.C.K. —-How Sadistically Ironic….
Risk Aware Consensual Kink…revisited.
How Sadistically Ironic….
That an acronym for informed, responsible play in the BDSM realm would be named after a torture device that my own pain slut of a husband wishes we had the room for in our own play room!
This was a term that at first shocked and terrified me.
What on God’s green earth
~could I do~
that would need such a foreboding stern “head’s up” to it?
A little farther into getting educated on BDSM and I started to understand the need for something more than the concept of “SSC” Safe Sane and Consensual.
Once I grasped the concept and the full weight behind R.A.C.K over S.S.C. I thought I’d never get to be the type of BDSM player that ever need the radical thought of “safer-less safe”—-my perception and vision of my own choices in the BDSM neighborhood would all be tame enough all I would need is to make sure my partners understood what I would be doing and consented to what I had in mind with no need to consider or be concerned about what I have in mind would be “less than safe.”
If it wasn’t “safer or safest” it would never be in play.
Fast forward fourish years and I find myself at times contemplating play with my husband that is way beyond anything I ever thought I would consider much less be capable of. Granted these are not my own ideas for play they are his…but that doesn’t prevent from the occasional “what if” pondering as I plan scenes.
Now this is where I admit
I was mused into revisiting the RACK concept
by another blogger.
As stated in recent blog, I am not an I.T. Geek and am still sorting out how to do what with this blog.
Writingthebody blogged about Soter Mule and the horrific events of BDSM play gone horribly wrong and I would love to have a link here but don’t have the skills yet! So Writingthebody, if you find your way to this blog and would leave a link in the comments I would be very thankful!
The blog hit home in the sense I am rabid about personal responsibly/accountability in every part of our lives.
I take my responsibilities as my husband dominant seriously. Job one for me is to make sure whatever type of play I choose will DO NO HARM.
Same goes with my poly partners.
There is also the onus on my husband and my poly partners to use their big heads, not the little heads when they consent to any activity I might choose.
They not only have the right too— but should–SPEAK UP if something I suggest doesn’t feel right or safe for him. Not matter how anal I am about keeping him and my poly partners safe THEY still has to exercise personal responsibility.
In my dungeon part of my responsibility is to force them to exercise that accountability.
Will I ever need to use RACK over SSC?
I don’t know…so I will never say never.